That's the reason you're here anyway, right?
For two years, it was just the two of us in our three bedroom apartment. We ate out a lot. We went out on dates plenty too! We would lie in each other's arms for hours at night just to talk and be close to each other. Nothing and no one else mattered as long as we were together.
On February 26,2014, I was in for the shock of my life when I took a pregnancy test that came up POSITIVE! My doctor had previously told me that in order to try for a baby I would have to take medication and go through a fertility process, but God had other plans. We were shocked and excited. We had a handsome and healthy baby boy on October 23, 2014. We named him after his handsome father. Life could not have been better, until 2 months later on December 29, 2014, we got a message saying that my cousin Derrick had a heart attack and later learning that he died at age 35! His death was untimely. At that time our grandmother was on her death bed, she died 3 days later on New Year's Day of 2015. Our family was devastated. To never experience the loss of close relatives but lose 2 within days of each other killed our family. I was a new mom and our baby still needed us, he still had to be fed every two hours. We were a young grieving, sleep-deprived couple. It was the hardest time of my life but life had to go on. I went back to work immediately after the funerals.
So what happens to your marriage during a difficult time?
My husband was very supportive during that time and he let me know that it was okay to grieve. The thing is that we spent two weeks in Albany, Ga.... two weeks off of work, which meant bills fell behind, which caused even more stress. I was constantly crying and lashing out at my husband, because although he tried to support me and be the shoulder for me to lean on, I still felt alone (that's what grief does to a person). We would argue over things as dumb as what to eat. Sad but true.
On my birthday, September 24, 2015, he took me to see the movie "War Room" and I was inspired; so inspired that I created one in my own home. I would get up each morning and pray that God would relieve me and deliver me from the pain and exhaustion. I was sick because life had happened and I couldnt catch up to one life altering event before another occurence. I was literally exhausted and a nap couldn't fix it. I tried talking to friends and family, that didn't work. I spent 2 months in grief counseling, that didn't work either.
After much time with God, I could literally see God change me right before my very own eyes. My husband and child needed me but I had checked out of my own life for a while. I repented and got better. My life started to change when I learned to depend on God for all of my help!
So what happens to your marriage during difficult times?? It gets tested, your faith gets exercised. If it is ordained by God himself, then it is molded and transformed into the perfect testimony, the perfect example of how to work through tough situations.
Today, I love Antonio more than ever because when I barely knew who I was, he reminded me and kept me sane! We know what tough times are and if I didn't know then, I definitely know now that he has my back no matter what.
NOBODY DID IT BUT GOD!