That's the reason you're here anyway, right?
I hate to hear my baby cry for things. As parents we want to give our children the world, but some of the things they want just aren't good for them, so it's up to us to protect them because unfortunately they aren't wise enough to make the right choices for themselves.
My son also cries when he's frustrated about something that seems too hard to do. I always want to step in and get him what he needs but he has to learn on his own. If mommy fixes his problems every time he cries then he'll never grow or develop like he should.
Do you see where I'm going yet?
We often cry out to God for help with obstables, stumbling blocks, and mountains that are placed along our journey that just seem too hard to overcome. As much as he hear us cry and as bad as he wants to help us, he won't always do so because they will help us grow. Those trials are there to make us strong and to teach us life lessons. We must understand that God is there every step of the way being the strength we need to conquer the tasks and tests of life. The key is trusting the process. Trust that God is, in fact, very intentional and he knows exactly what he is doing in your life. He'll take the very mess you made with your own life and teach you a lesson and if you love him, he will work it out for your good.
So yes, to my child, his cries for help are unheard; but, in actuality, mommy is there watching him reach to higher heights and ensuring that while he does so he is not harmed in the process, protecting him from a short distance.... just as God does for us, his children.
For two years, it was just the two of us in our three bedroom apartment. We ate out a lot. We went out on dates plenty too! We would lie in each other's arms for hours at night just to talk and be close to each other. Nothing and no one else mattered as long as we were together.
On February 26,2014, I was in for the shock of my life when I took a pregnancy test that came up POSITIVE! My doctor had previously told me that in order to try for a baby I would have to take medication and go through a fertility process, but God had other plans. We were shocked and excited. We had a handsome and healthy baby boy on October 23, 2014. We named him after his handsome father. Life could not have been better, until 2 months later on December 29, 2014, we got a message saying that my cousin Derrick had a heart attack and later learning that he died at age 35! His death was untimely. At that time our grandmother was on her death bed, she died 3 days later on New Year's Day of 2015. Our family was devastated. To never experience the loss of close relatives but lose 2 within days of each other killed our family. I was a new mom and our baby still needed us, he still had to be fed every two hours. We were a young grieving, sleep-deprived couple. It was the hardest time of my life but life had to go on. I went back to work immediately after the funerals.
So what happens to your marriage during a difficult time?
My husband was very supportive during that time and he let me know that it was okay to grieve. The thing is that we spent two weeks in Albany, Ga.... two weeks off of work, which meant bills fell behind, which caused even more stress. I was constantly crying and lashing out at my husband, because although he tried to support me and be the shoulder for me to lean on, I still felt alone (that's what grief does to a person). We would argue over things as dumb as what to eat. Sad but true.
On my birthday, September 24, 2015, he took me to see the movie "War Room" and I was inspired; so inspired that I created one in my own home. I would get up each morning and pray that God would relieve me and deliver me from the pain and exhaustion. I was sick because life had happened and I couldnt catch up to one life altering event before another occurence. I was literally exhausted and a nap couldn't fix it. I tried talking to friends and family, that didn't work. I spent 2 months in grief counseling, that didn't work either.
After much time with God, I could literally see God change me right before my very own eyes. My husband and child needed me but I had checked out of my own life for a while. I repented and got better. My life started to change when I learned to depend on God for all of my help!
So what happens to your marriage during difficult times?? It gets tested, your faith gets exercised. If it is ordained by God himself, then it is molded and transformed into the perfect testimony, the perfect example of how to work through tough situations.
Today, I love Antonio more than ever because when I barely knew who I was, he reminded me and kept me sane! We know what tough times are and if I didn't know then, I definitely know now that he has my back no matter what.
NOBODY DID IT BUT GOD!