That's the reason you're here anyway, right?
So my husband and I are working on year 6 of marriage. Things are good but here’s the thing from my perspective as WIFE. I had a legit epiphany. When we married I was 23 and full of life. Two years later, we had a baby, experienced some deaths in the family and financial struggles. So I started sacrificing my self-care time. After a while, you just get comfortable and let life kind of pass you by.
So on social media, I’ve noticed that women change COMPLETELY after a break-up. “Change” is not even the word; it’s more of a transformation that occurs! I mean new hair styles, new bodies, new wardrobes, new attitudes… Just brand new! I started to reflect on myself and how I have just stopped putting in extra effort to look sexy for him, except for special occasions. Why do women wait until it’s over with a significant other to “transform?” I don’t want that.
I’ve always asked my husband to tell me when he believes I have become too comfortable or if he finds that I’m no longer physically attractive but let’s be honest. Would I really receive that well though? Nah. Not really. So thankfully, I’m having a bit of a reality check on my own. Sometimes as a woman, I get so lost into being a MOMMY that I forget to be a WIFE.
Bonnets to bed are okay…SOMETIMES; but not every night. His t-shirt is cool every now and then but not every night. So it’s your day off? Get up put yourself together and be cute. Just put effort into yourself. If not for him then DO IT FOR YOU!
What is a SOUL TIE? A soul tie is an emotional or spiritual connection between two people that is not easily broken and is usually caused by certain actions. The most common soul tie is formed between two people who have had sex. Not all soul ties are good soul ties. Let’s discuss some of the signs of being tied by an unhealthy soul tie.
7 signs you’re in an unhealthy soul tie:
Can a soul tie be broken?
Yes! Some would disagree but with MUCH prayer and WILL, a soul tie can be broken. If a person is not ready to break it, then it won’t be broken. It can take years to finally break a soul tie but, again, it can be done. I remember forming soul tie after soul tie and trying to figure out why I had BI-POLAR DISORDER symptoms… taking on unclean spirits from men who cared NOTHING for my spirit. If a person loves you, they love all of you, including MIND, BODY, and SOUL!
Can you identify with any of these signs?
From the day I laid eyes on you. Your spirit intrigued mine. I just wanted to know you but 9 months later you became my husband. From conversation to conversation, I learned more and more reasons to fall deeper in love with you. You've endured so much but you stand so strong. That amazes me. You love hard. You're passionate about what you believe in and love and most times that works in my favor. Lol.
I love everything about you. From the way you make sure I get off to work safely every morning to you saying, "Watch your step, bae." From your laugh to how serious you are about your craft and gifts. I love every fiber of your being. You’re so caring and compassionate.
Often times, you're misunderstood but I understand you perfectly. No, you aren't perfect but you're perfect for me. You're the best mentor and our son believes that you can do anything. You're our superman. I thank you for your hard work and dedication to your family. I appreciate you for the way you love and understand me. You made a commitment to love me for life, knowing that things wouldn't always be sunshine and breezy but you've been here with me even through storms and rain. When I'm not so sweet and pleasant, you love me through it and you're patient with me. I know I can be two hands full every now and then but you've proven to be the man for the job. LOL No but really... thank you. I think sometimes in marriages we get so comfortable and we take our spouses for granted. We forget to say please and thank you. We forget the random acts of kindness. We forget to serve and cherish each other. I don't want to get that comfortable...EVER.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I love you and I can't see my life without you and it's a wonder how I ever lived without you. I’ve heard many women say, “I don’t need a man.” Listen, you’re my best friend and my lifelong partner… I need you! No shame in my game. Marrying you over 5 years ago was the best decision I have ever made. Thank you for being my husband and for being so good at it. I believe that God tailor made you just for ME! You rock baby!